In the past, I have always thought that getting pregnant and having a baby is as easy as pie, and that I will be a mother in MY own timing. I have been married for a little over five years now, and during that time, Tim and I have definitely talked about starting a family. However, I brushed it off every time and told him agitatedly that I simply wasn’t ready. End of the conversation. However, we have been trying for a little over a year now, and I am forced to come to a painstaking realization that conceiving is not as easy as I thought it was going to be.
One of the most important factors in conceiving a baby is the mother’s overall health. Unfortunately, it is apparent that my body is still suffering from the years of disordered eating that I engaged in. Right after I got married, I fell into a deep depression. For a girl who thrive on consistency and uniformity, all the changes that occurred at once was too much to bear. In a desperation to gain some, no any sense of control, I started the self-destructive cycle of starving and bingeing. It was the lowest time of my life, and I weighed as little as 85 pounds!
I say all this to remind myself and all of you that we need to treat our body that God graciously gave us like a temple (I know it’s a cliche but so true). Whatever the reasons are for engaging in activities that are so harmful and dangerous to our bodies, trust me, there will be repercussions.
Praise the Lord, I am on the road to recovery! It hasn’t been and is still not that easy. Like I’ve mentioned, I am a creature of habit. I have lived so many days counting calories, avoiding fat, weighing myself constantly, bingeing for hours on end then starving out of guilt, exercising excessively… It’s a part of me now. I cannot simply just walk away. The good news is that I am trying! And what’s motivating me now is my immense desire to become a mother!
The first step I took was to admit that I have an eating disorder. I did not want to admit that I had a problem, but now I own up to it.
So what are some of the changes that I have made since then?
I got rid of that darn scale. I am exercising less. I am eating more than I ever have in my entire life! I eat a lot of these:
you can find a lot of squirrel food around here. Lots of nuts and seeds!
And finally, I started this blog. So many days I just want to curl up into a ball, lock myself inside the house, and be isolated from the world. However, I have been down that path before, and it sure isn’t pretty! I wanted to create an outlet for myself in which I can express my feelings and my thoughts instead of harboring them all inside.
So here I find myself sitting in front of a computer, organizing my thoughts, and putting them into words. I must say I already feel this sense of liberation and peace that I can’t explain. This is a good thing!
Now for those of you who may be suffering from heartaches or struggling with various issues in life, this is for you…
Psalm 18:32-34
It is God who arms me with strength and makes my way perfect. He makes my feel like the feet of a deer; he enables me to stand on the heights. He trains my hands for battle; my arms can bend a bow of bronze.
hope you can find strength in these words!
Your time will come soon enough and God will bless you with the most beautiful baby..
You will be a fabulous mama I can tell already wink
Thank you!! I love you sis!!
Hi Min,
Don’t give up! I had the same unhealthy habits as you, and we have two beautiful girls! I really resigned myself to not having kids because I thought I had messed myself up so bad. You should look into some herbal formulas to balance your hormones. This website has a formula that I took prior to getting pregnant: https://www.drshen.com/herbsforwomenshealth.htm
You could probably get it elsewhere though. The formula is called Women’s Precious. I’ll be praying for you!
P.s. Your cucumber mask worked wonderfully!
Hi Lauren! Yes they are precious!! Thank you for your words of encouragement!! it means so much to me =) oh and thank you for the website!! I would not have known about it otherwise! I have tried fertility acupuncture with no success. I couldn’t afford it any longer. I am a bit skeptical when it comes to taking any kind of medicine, but I am def going to look into this one. How long did you take it for? And thank you for you your prayers!! So many thank yous that I owe you =)
I probably took it for a few months…? I tried acupuncture as well for other problems, but not fertility, and I didn’t notice much. I seem to respond really well to herbs though, so maybe that could help you? I really like the Chinese formulas! Let me know if you try one!
What an amazing story! That takes incredible strength to overcome – I definitely admire you. With a healthy body & soul full of love, I bet you’ll be a Mama in no time 😉
Aww thanks Erin! That’s what I’m hopin’ for!!
Hi Min, just found your blog and story reminded my fear of not being able to conceive. I never had a ED but was always concious about my fitness level, so when I did not get my period back after stopping the pills, I was scared. I was very thin and everything told me that that was the problem. I did all kinds of tests and all hormones came back normal, except that my BMI is below “normal”. I almost gave up until I found a really good chinese doctor who saw that my problem was not my low weight, but my stress level. my body was all blocked by stress (I was doing an PhD). He treated me and I tried to relax. I graduated last summer while my period was also normalizing, and bang, in the first attempt “seriously”, meaning tracking the temperature, ovulation and all, I conceived. And I didn’t gain weight and i didn’t stop working out. It was all a matter of stress management. Now I’m entering 26 weeks and super excited! 🙂
Good luck girl!
btw, if you want to check out my blog. it’s balancejoyanddelicias.wordpress.com.
Min, You know I’m right there with you girl. I pray for you daily. God will answer our prayers…. in HIS time. Love you!